Agreed. One of the things we did at the gunshow this weekend was to look at possible guns for my wife.msredneck said:
She really, really loved the feel of the new S&W Bodyguard (semi-polymer snubbie, with integrated laser)...it fit her hand perfectly. But even regular pressure .38 loads in that light of a revolver will be unpleasant for her, I think.
Her 2nd choice, and the one I'm going to pursue, is a Ruger SP101 in the new .327 Fed load. It's small with a small, comfy grip that fits her hand, just heavy enough to take the edge off the recoil but not so heavy that it's hard for her to aim, and can shoot .32 H&R magnum's while she works her way up to the full recoil .327 Fed loads.
The only things I don't like are (1) future availability and cost of .327 Fed and .32 H&R magnum...I'd rather not invest in a gun with questionable ammo availability. Anyone seen boxes of .45 GAP at Wal-Mart recently?, and (2) the DA pull might be heavier than is comfortable for her. She has a hard time with the DA pull on my S&W 38-2 Airweight, and I'd have to guess the Ruger DA pull will be comparably heavy.