I'm asked this question quite often.
Lots of people believe that an ultra-lite model 38 special is best for a woman.
I've learned a good bit working with lady shooters, and here's what I've found:
1. Lighter guns mean more recoil. I've seen women with very lady-like hands shed tears after just a few rounds. They're holding the gun properly, but it pushes straight back into the curve of the hand. It hurts them, and they don't like it. If they don't like it, they won't go to the range and practice.
2. Light weight frames do not hold up to the round counts needed to stay proficent. By far, the best revolver you can buy is a Smith & Wesson 640. It's a .357 and it's built for that pressure, but I would just carry a good 38 special self-defense round. Then, just have them practice with bulk pack target rounds. That gun will hold a long time. It also has the weight to absorb the recoil. It won't hurt their hands, and makes for a quick follow-up shot.
The laser sight grips are neat to play with, but they don't take the place of really knowing how to shoot well. You have to learn the basics and apply them:
3. Sight Picture
4. Trigger Control
No gadget will ever help you bypass those basics.
Hope this helps. :thumbup: